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Originally Posted by Royle9
Fighting now a days is nothing like it was back in our day.
I’d be very hesitant to throw any punches, not just from fear of injury or possible lawsuits/jail time but from my experience nobody fights fair anymore and almost always weapons get thrown into the mix which results in more dire consequence.
This exact scenario happened to a buddy of mine where he stepped up to defend his wife from comments at a bar/restaurant and after throwing the first punch he was jumped from behind and stabbed multiple times.
Almost lost his ability to walk.
Just stupid all around.
So I’m firmly in the walk away category, though my inside voice definitely tells me FAFO to defend one’s loved ones.
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Yeah..
People who try to instigate fights are typically low-vibing. Angry at life, envious of others, looking to drag someone down to their level and make them pay for biting. Sometimes it's just blind, misdirected anger. So it's important to recognize it for what it is and remain above it cognitively.
If you bite, they win. If you brush it off and completely reject whatever they're putting down, you win. You get to keep your peace, your life, your well-being, etc.
Let them stew in their negativity and don't let it infect you.
And yeah, if it comes to it, make sure they attack first so that anything that follows is seen as self-defense. And that's the time to be dangerous. But only then, IMO.
I've always found physical altercations easy to avoid, even with guys who are frothing at the mouth to get into it. You just never meet them where they're at (in anger). Pattern interrupt them with concern, confusion, or apathy. They're looking for a dance partner so it's usually as simple as not tangoing.
If you feel the need to answer every insult hurled your way (which means you give people power at any given moment), you'll make yourself vulnerable and unsafe to be around. Rearranging someone's face sounds satisfying, but we also live in the real world where nothing good comes out of it beyond the thrill. There's nothing that makes you feel stupider than paying months or years or some kind of irreparable damage for a momentary lapse in judgment.