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Originally Posted by V1nnyTh3Flam35Fan
If you’re one of those guys that suggest alpha podcasts, I would be very concerned to taking advice from you. Also ever since that toxic conversation, I’ve been experiencing sleepless where I truly feel like I can’t sleep. I hate the idea of exercise. Just a stupid way to get my clothes wet with sweat…
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GGG is the forum poster who presents everything entirely dispassionately, while attempting to understand systems and behaviors. He's about the last person here that would argue Alpha talking points. But I understand your guarded response. Nobody likes to be told what to do(hell, it's why posted this thread) but your response is also along the lines of someone how just wants their view validated, and to not actually question what is behind it.
GGG laid out some very fair, rational lifestyle thoughts, and perhaps reasons why your mom is giving you a hard time. You are young, and should be putting all of your energy into improving your life later. Trust me, it's waaay harder when you are older. And yes, I know it sucks at your age, too. But most of us are speaking from experience of going to extended education, working crap jobs to make ends meet and toughing it out until we got to our goal. I lived in a rental with 4-15 room mates, depending on the day. It's not easy because life isn't easy.
If the argument is still affecting you, maybe some professional advice would help. There are free resources that you can use to talk to people. Talk to your doctor. It's certainly not healthy to be your age and have your sleep constantly destroyed by mental health and as you can see, is impacting your life. So fix it.
Life is a series of problems that need fixing, solving, moving on from...and I'm sorry to also sound like an Alpha, but dude, you gotta exercise. It's not really optional. The worst part is when you hit 35 losing weight is neigh impossible, forming habits is harder, your body is less capable. The trick with exercise is you have to find something you enjoy doing. Any movement is good. Biking, walking, disc golf, dodge ball, team sports might be good for your social life. Whatever, you have to find what works for you, but you really do have to find something. "Wet clothes" is a lame excuse, and I'm not sorry to say that.
He's also completely right about the chores, the exception being if your parents really want to support you to maximize the other areas of your life, it's OK to put less time there with their permission. But if you ever want to be a good spouse, you gotta be on these things regularly.
You sound lost and you need some help, but you really do have the power to do a lot of it yourself(unless their are disabilities here we aren't aware of). We are a bunch of guys who have lived through your life stage, but aren't so far from it as it to be alien to us. Keep asking for advice, it's up to you to actually do the work though.