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I think there is a big it depends here that we don’t know if you current behaviours are detrimental.

As a parent of still teenagers here is what I would be concerned with.

Are you putting a work week worth of effort into something additive. They can be labour for money, this can be learning a new skill, this can be educational, this can be looking for work. You currently are part time on the labour front so what are you adding to that to get to a minimum of 40hrs of productive effort. If you had a full time job this should probably be 50 hrs so you have some external from work time for self improvement.

Are you getting your recommended 150 minutes of physical activity per week? If not this is a concern and a habit you should build while young.

Do you have at least one in person social activity per week. (This could be combined with say video games or hockey in my opinion as long as it’s physically in person and not online)

Are your share of household chores done? You should be doing your own cleaning and laundry for your space plus taking on cleaning, and cooking activities for shared spaces. This should be done without anyone asking you

Are you getting 7-9hrs of sleep per night?
Are you out of bed for at least 14hrs a day?

The goal of this list is to ensure you are looking after your work requirements, physical health, mental health, and ensuring you are getting in person face time with people outside of family and work.


If you have checked off those boxes I don’t think I would care if the rest of the time is spent tiktoking, watching hockey, playing video games or whatever else. And if you do the above efficiently you probably have 40-50hrs of free time. If you aren’t checking those boxes then I think your mom is just poorly expressing what she is concerned about and instead of having the more difficult conversation it’s easier to just rant about video games.