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Originally Posted by SutterBrother
Not a ton of context here. Guessing you're in your 20's?
Sounds like you're struggling at being an adult but still living at home with your Mom. She pays the bills, and probably treats you like a kid. She sees you spending several hours a day in front of a screen and is concerned.
With that in mind, I'd suggest making finding a full time job your new short term hobby.
That'll allow you to 1) bank, 2) move out, and 3) pretty quickly you'll discover it's really nice to be able to do whatever you want in your free time.
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Yeah, I'm with OP's mom on this. I don't believe watching other men play hockey on TV is a hobby. It's just consuming entertainment. I think if you had your friends over and made it a social thing I'd be happier about it, but it's a bit of a stretch to pretend it's an actual hobby to watch TV.
If she's watching Netflix after a long day of work, that's her relaxing reward for being productive all day for the past 25 years. She's older, has less energy and sounds like she works full time. Relaxing is necessary and a reward once your responsibilities are under control.
If you're young and not working full time and just playing vids and watching TV...I mean, that's super concerning behaviour for a young adult. I'd be stressing like mad in her shoes.
Can you maybe see if Video Game Traders or somewhere is hiring? Maybe Sport Chek or some hockey store if you like hockey? I landscaped for several months after getting my degree because sitting around applying for jobs seriously doesn't take all day every day. You gotta get out there, guy. You need a job. When I finally got hired at a professional job that used my degree, 90% of my interview was about my landscaping experience...for a job where I was hired to be a writer. If I'm looking to hire someone and it's between two people with the same qualifications, I'm hiring the guy who is already working and not content to just be sitting on his couch in front of a screen all day over the dude who plays GTA and knows a bunch of hockey stats.
I think you may need to acknowledge that your mom is right and you are wrong. Nothing will happen for you if you continue to plunk yourself in front of your TV. You absolutely need to plug into the world more even by just getting a basic job somewhere.
Hobbies are a great and necessary distraction to round out your day/week from your work and the grind. You're not doing the work or grind while simultaneously pretending consuming media is a hobby. You really do come across as a teenager trapped in a young adult's body.
I wouldn't say any of this if I didn't think your life would do a 180 and head in a healthier and happier direction if you just changed your attitude and listened to your mom. Where you are isn't a good or healthy place. Your mom can see this, knows this and wants more for you for your own sake. Grab your resume, go to Canadian Tire, Sporting Life, video game stores, Sport Chek, etc. and just do literally anything to get yourself out of the house, making money and making headway on taking a step forward. Do it today. Go have a shower, shave, put on some nice clothes and start applying literally today. You're in a rut, but you can just walk right out of it in less than an hour and be on your way to better things. Maybe even just working at a Shoppers as a clerk will be a great way to get noticed.