I was in the situation of being good friends with a girl with whom I wanted more. We were friends for many years before I felt other feelings for her and we remained good friends for a couple of years. I told a couple of friends my predicament and made it known that I would've rather been friends for life than take the next step and wind up breaking up and being unable to remain friends. One of them spilled the beans and we (me and this girl) stopped hanging out over time. We'll still strike up a good chat when we run into each other, but we don't make it a point to contact one another.
Anyways I never found out her true feelings on the issue, and I don't care to now. However either we stopped being good friends because she was either freaked out by me wanting more, or she wanted more and decided why waste her time on my if I wasn't going to persue more.
At any rate I lost a good friend because I didn't take a chance. A chance I was scared to make because I didn't want to lose a good friend. I say go for it.
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