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Originally Posted by fotze2
So I got written up at work first time ever a negative thing.
One was for swearing too much and the other for leaving my computer unattended. Out of the blue. Bizarre but ok. Hit to barely existing prior ego. Obviously constructively setting up for dismissal. My boss is the biggest piece of crap human on the planet bully, so this is probably for the best.
Had lunch with a former boss mentor who has been through similar. Just said “do not make it easy for them”. Had a coffee with a resident CP lawyer after who advised much the same. Just have to bite my tongue and gut it out.
Spent the day phoning and polling every single one of my colleagues and apologized if I swore and was unprofessional.
Every single one laughed in my face. Two made me cry. A guy who just started a month or so back in a high level could not believe that and said I amd easily the most liked person in the company. Another said I am the perfect engineer. I started crying.
This is new territory for me. The CEO in New York even phoned me to walk me off the ledge.
Kill me. This sucks so hard but working for this guy is not sustainable. He totally bullied me back to returning from surgery way too soon but I agreed.
I wanna quit so bad and severance won’t amount to anything anyway.
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Honestly, this past year I was in the same boat in many ways. I held on for the package which is still under discussion. If you don't have much tenure, apply elsewhere. Someone at my workplace when I informed them of my situation was more to cover my butt by putting things in writing and even putting the anxiety in writing. I learned HR is there to cover the company's butt in case of a lawsuit, so they'll do anything possible to alert management and legal to make sure that doesn't happen. But at least it buys you time and a paper trail. I totally feel for you. It can and will kill your self confidence when they nitpick and say you're doing x and y wrong. Every insecurity you have when it comes to imposter syndrome will be exasperated. It sucks but this is what they'll do. Do work to rule where you do your 9-5, then spend an hour a day looking outside. It's not worth your mental health to be put through the nonsense. Another thing - I probably told 50 people at work about my situation and literally 3 people helped me by looking out for other positions, which didn't end up anywhere. My lawyer said not to talk to anyone about your situation. Just talk to friends outside work. Within the workplace people are friendly enough but if you talk badly about your boss or company it can be seen as insubordination which can be with cause, so best not give anyone ammo. Just talk to friends, to the bare minimum and move out. Screw a company who can't invest in good people.