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Originally Posted by Paulie Walnuts
Meredith mentioned Calgary a bunch in her letter to John. She also said she was happy to stay in Calgary and let Johnny decide what he wanted to do. Family was the reason. I see no reason why she would be lying. So that confirms she didn’t convince him to leave.
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This will be my only comment on this, as this is neither the forum, place, and to be quite honest, dissentowner, you make yourself look extremely petty and immature from all this.
When i was asked to move to Regina for work, I wrestled with the decision to the very last second. I was convinced I'd stay in Calgary, then an offer came, and I had hopes and dreams. Then i talked to my family, my wife, etc. Never once was I 100% in. I was moving AWAY from my family also. I had family and friends tell me not to do it. I had family and friends tell me to do it. i had family and friends tell me it was my decision. I was 29 years old. It didn't matter than i felt secure in my life and work in Calgary. I was an emotional wreck from day 1, not wanting to disappoint anybody, and also make the best decision for me and my family. Up until the last minute, I had flip flopped between taking the offer or telling my company that I had led them astray and i wasn't comfortable. In the end, i chose the former and I would never look back.
I wrestle with these same decisions today, as our family is back in Calgary, and i empathize with what Gaudreau and his wife chose to do. And guess what? When you get married, your family becomes just that. You and your spouse. Your parents and siblings become secondary to it all. I want to be close to my parents and extended family and have TIME with them. But for me and FAMILY (Wife, sons), it's not the right time. For the Gaudreau's, it 100% and unequivocally was. Meredith has come out and confirmed that. Johnny came out and confirmed that. But you know what's even more important? NONE OF THAT WAS ANYBODY'S BUSINESS AND THEY OWED NOBODY NOTHING. The fact that they both came out in their own way and time to "justify" their decision, was because they wanted to.
Decisions can be changed and made at the blink of an eye. There is no such thing as the right decision. The right decision or wrong decision will never be equal in it's effect to the people around, but if it's the right decision for your family, then there is NOTHING that is wrong with that.
So if i could give you a word of advice dissentowner, put this to bed, and leave it alone. I get you're a passionate fan, as we all are. But there are certain topics that you shouldn't have such a hard line on, given that you are not in their shoes, source or no source.