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Originally Posted by combustiblefuel
I've stayed very quite through this thread but followed along for good reason.
I don't ever talk about this and only a few people outside who I was friends with at the time but when I was 18 I was falsely accused of rape. My god was it the worst time of my life . Cops showed up at work didn't haul me off it was a busy night. Juat had a manager to relay the message to come in after work. I got off work at 1 am . Went home showered ,changed and headed right over to the local rcmp dispatch. Went through a door and said are you x . I said yes, do you have x type of tattoo , I said yes, was asked to turn around and was read that I was charged with rape of a minor. I was 18 she was 17.
It was hell through interrogation. I was honest. We did make out but when she wanted more I was the one to halt the breaks . She wanted to include a friend who I was absolutely not attracted to . I was down for 1 v1 but she wanted her friend included so I pulled the plug .
Luckily after 5 months investigation a neutral friend of ours had told a few guys that my accuser wanted to get back at me which lead her to have to own up she was lieing. We all where drunk and there was 8 of us drinking. And not drinking a bit like EM . We were properly drunk. She told the rcmp eventually she was pissed off because I rejected the proposition and it was easier for her to come to terms with her "sinful feelings " and to explain where she was to her parents why she was out till 3am and drunk coming home because the were religious zealots.
That's why in these types of cases with videos that she consents makes it hard for me to belive victims which makes me feel awful as a human. Their are definently cases I go ya that guy is terrible. But then I see cases like this that raise my trauma especially when I hear she had a boyfriend willingly cheat which has been established then Maccloud texts want a 3 some? I have a hard time believing she didn't ask for a 3 some. I've been there . I was still too shy at the time and said no. And saying no burned me for a time. Seeing such a similar situation playout where maybe she regrets doing what she did to her now fiancee dosen't seem like a stretch to me. At the same time she could be telling the complete truth.
I personally have a strong biased towards EM because she says she forgets and the partner situation. I'll tell you one thing till this day I remeber everything vividly to this day. I don't buy any I can't remember that was so long ago arguments from either side. I had this happen over 20 years ago. Only bringing my story up as false accusations arguments came up. I was falsely accused and rightfully not charged after alot of hell.
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Thanks for sharing your story, I am sure that wasn't easy to do and probably brings up a lot of a tough time in your life. Mine is nowhere nearly like yours or this current case, but back in 1998 I was going through a tough time while in school & looking ahead to life. I was in a toxic relationship and in early 1999 was charged with impaired driving. Anyway fast forward to the year 2000, I wasn't drinking, living a clean life, working and as I was trying to get out of this relationship my girlfriend threatened call the police on me and her words exactly were "I can make stuff up and they will believe me". She was convinced that she could use my impaired against me and tell the police that I was drinking and assaulted her (physically or sexually), remember no technology then so it would have truly been he said / she said. I didn't know what to think and got absolutely freaked out. I immediately left and only returned with co-workers of mine (so I had other eyes on the situation) when she was at work to pack up my stuff up.