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Originally Posted by Russic
This is going to be one of those "easy to say, very hard to act on" statements... but you don't need to impress anybody, and there is a lifetime of satisfaction on the other side of that statement. Getting there is no simple task and I'm not saying a basic reframe is all you need, but maybe just admitting that this isn't true might be a doable first step.
My apologies if this has already been asked, but how old are you? Is getting away from your parents a feasible option here? She sounds like a boat anchor you don't realize is welded around your neck.
You say things like it's hard to find motivation to keep going, getting out of bed, or finding anything in your career aspirations. To that I would ask: how could anyone find any of those things if they're experiencing constant stress and shame? You're trying to light a fire in a downpour and blaming yourself for it not working.
So the simple/extremely hard solution here seems to be you need to get away from your mother. Whether that's in the cards or not I don't know. The trajectory with her in your life is potentially fatal, so I don't see how any other option isn't better.
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