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redforever · 07-12-2007, 10:45 AM

Personally, I think it is very selfish of those who do destination weddings. We have been invited to 3 already, one a nephew, 2, children of very close friends. We have made it our policy to refuse all of them.

For one thing, those planning a destination wedding are assuming it is a place guests would like to go to. Then you are also assuming people want to vacation at that time of year. Then there can and will be those who simply are not able, because of their health, to attend a destination wedding, but would love to dearly, example, grandparents. Many of that age would be able to travel by car or by bus but not by air. The grandparents of my children would fit into this category. My father has broken his hip, would never be able to fly anywhere far and my mother in law has severe osteoarthritis, again, making it very diffult to fly for any long period of time.

Personally, I think if you want to have your wedding in some exotic location, keep the wedding to yourselves and have a wedding reception back home.

Now, there are some other things to keep in mind, probably not with all destination weddings, but it did affect our nephew. He did a destination wedding in Cuba. By the way, they invited everyone, only ones who actually went to Cuba were parents. They had their wedding in July, most said it would be too hot at that time of year, they were not interested in Cuba, and many others did not wish to or could not afford to go there, not even brothers and sisters. So they ended up doing the reception thing back home anyhow.

Now, in Cuba, you have 2 government officials doing the wedding, speaking in Spanish, so in actuality, you really dont even know what you are agreeing to. Then, you are given a marriage certificate that you process when you get back to Canada. Well, with our nephew, that took over 3 months. Wedding was in July, they moved to England to teach end of August, not having a wedding certificate to prove that they were married. And for some reason or other, that was a real barrier for his wife. She was allowed to enter England and teach in England, but it was a lot of paper work that they had not expected.

07-12-2007, 10:45 AM	#15
redforever Franchise Player Join Date: Feb 2006 Exp:	Personally, I think it is very selfish of those who do destination weddings. We have been invited to 3 already, one a nephew, 2, children of very close friends. We have made it our policy to refuse all of them. For one thing, those planning a destination wedding are assuming it is a place guests would like to go to. Then you are also assuming people want to vacation at that time of year. Then there can and will be those who simply are not able, because of their health, to attend a destination wedding, but would love to dearly, example, grandparents. Many of that age would be able to travel by car or by bus but not by air. The grandparents of my children would fit into this category. My father has broken his hip, would never be able to fly anywhere far and my mother in law has severe osteoarthritis, again, making it very diffult to fly for any long period of time. Personally, I think if you want to have your wedding in some exotic location, keep the wedding to yourselves and have a wedding reception back home. Now, there are some other things to keep in mind, probably not with all destination weddings, but it did affect our nephew. He did a destination wedding in Cuba. By the way, they invited everyone, only ones who actually went to Cuba were parents. They had their wedding in July, most said it would be too hot at that time of year, they were not interested in Cuba, and many others did not wish to or could not afford to go there, not even brothers and sisters. So they ended up doing the reception thing back home anyhow. Now, in Cuba, you have 2 government officials doing the wedding, speaking in Spanish, so in actuality, you really dont even know what you are agreeing to. Then, you are given a marriage certificate that you process when you get back to Canada. Well, with our nephew, that took over 3 months. Wedding was in July, they moved to England to teach end of August, not having a wedding certificate to prove that they were married. And for some reason or other, that was a real barrier for his wife. She was allowed to enter England and teach in England, but it was a lot of paper work that they had not expected.