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Originally Posted by iamca
I read several articles yesterday and I was wrong about OCD, she has OCPD.
Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder causes obsession with order, perfectionism, control and a specific way of doing things.
Here are the behaviors and traits of OCPD:
Be preoccupied with and insist on details, rules, lists, order and organization.
Have perfectionism that interferes with completing tasks.
Have excessive devotion to work and productivity.
This results in neglecting hobbies and spending less time with loved ones.
Have excessive doubt and indecisiveness.
Use extreme caution to avoid what they perceive to be failure.
Be rigid and stubborn in their beliefs and ways of doing things.
Be unwilling to compromise.
Have difficulty working with others or delegating tasks unless they agree to do things exactly as the person wants.
Frequently become overly fixated on a single idea, task or belief.
Perceive everything as “black or white” (dichotomous thinking).
Have difficulty coping with criticism.
Over-focus on flaws in other people.
The number one strategy in dealing with a boss with OCPD: Don’t try to change them.
It’s pointless, won’t work and I’ll end up in a worse situation.
The post from Trent helped me look at myself and what I can do to improve my life and well being, because I cannot change her or tell her that she needs treatment for her OCPD. That would add fuel to the fire.
I reached out to a mental health professional and have my first appointment tomorrow morning (first available).
Thanks doesn’t really cover it, but thank you and the CP community for your support!
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This basically describes almost every manager I've ever had. This is particularly true in larger businesses, where the commands come from the top down. They can't be specific to every situation, so they make a sweeping order that's good, on average, for the entire business. The problem is they often create inefficiencies and extra work for various people on the bottom rungs.
The middle managers are always people, although they profess their devotion to the big picture, aren't actually capable of seeing it themselves. If you're lucky they've been chosen because they blindly follow and enforce rules. If you're unlucky they got to where they are because they have a talent for making their coworkers look bad.
As much as I complain about the burdens of being self employed, it's posts like this that remind me that working for others can be so much worse. Having your livelyhood and future decided by the whims of someone incapable of doing their basic function as a manager is in another level.