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Originally Posted by troutman
As a divorced parent and former divorce lawyer, I think in many cases it is better for the children if there parents would separate. Growing up in an unhappy home is not providing the children the best experiences. In my parents’ generation divorce was rare, and many people lined through unhappy marriages. Maybe half of children today are raised by separated parents. Children can thrive if their best interests are put first.
Before you can get divorce in Alberta, you must take the Parenting After Separation course. One principle of the best interests of the children, is that they enjoy maximum contact with both parents, consistent with their best interests. Social science supports this concept.
I am fortunate that my ex and I had an amicable divorce, and we are still friends that enjoy together the growth of our two adult sons. Of course it was difficult and there were some rough moments, but the boys are thriving now.
My youngest son thanked me last summer - he is very grateful that he was raised by amicable parents.
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Yeah, I consider myself lucky that I didn't have to live in a household where the parents fought a lot or were just unhappy. Being a single mom was definitely hard on my mother and we had some challenges because of it, but the alternative probably would have been worse.
I think the most important thing is that the parents act civilized to each other after the divorce if you don't want to risk having a bad relationship with the kids.