A split household is better than a household where her parents hate each other. And it's better than a household where they are unhappy with their situation, even if they're not actively arguing. Is that the kind of "relationship" you want to model for her future? Probably not.
I know people who manage well with co-parenting. One thing that is a lot more common now is where the kids spend half their time with each parent (usually alternating weeks). That way you are both parenting in all situations, rather one parent handling all the school, discipline, etc, and the other one being the "fun parent" who only spends a few weekend hours with the kid.
And find a friend, therapist, whoever, to discuss things with. Never badmouth your ex to your child. Kids are great at blaming themselves for things. And (usually) they will love the other parent, so if they think you can't stand her, it puts them in an awkward situation.
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