I have a 25 year old son who no longer lived with me full time since he was a baby. His mother and I still say happy Father's/Mother's Day to each other and never once argued about child support. I have a great relationship with my son and always have. The key was making sure we both understood that we can't have 4000 different lines in the sand. I didn't like him getting an Eminem CD for his 8th birthday, but it's not the kind of thing to start a fight over.
My favorite advice I heard was "You can start a war any time, but you can't always make peace". I credit most of the success to that
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