My parents getting divorced improved my life.
The stress level and amount of arguing was far lower than divorced. Both were very good about not criticizing the other one in front of us.
I think your comparison is misplaced. You see to be comparing a functional relationship with two parents who love eachother with divorced parents who fight all the time. I think a more realistic comparison is two parents together who fight all the time with divorced parents who fight and argue less. If you can get back to where you are in a real loving relationship then sure that is better but if the choice is unhappy together vs less unhappy apart the latter will be better.
Both my parents remained a big part of my life. Fight for joint custody, choose to live near eachother so your child can live in both your houses while going to the same school so you can truly have 50/50 custody.
Good luck, if you both put your kid first she and you will be fine.
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