Are you married?
My advice will be (most likely) counter to all you receive.
Date your lady again. Sit back and observe her everyday - what she does, how she runs the house; how she interacts with your daughter. See the value in her again. Set aside your full resentment. When it rears its head - choose to not embrace it - rather watch how she is.
You’ll start to see what she does that you take for granted. If you’re not married - you’ve already taken her for granted as well as not valued her. Not fighting words - it’s the truth. Part of being the man in the relationship. So be the man / the leader. Involves righting the ship and doing what’s necessary. It’s not solely your daughter that you are doing it for. You chose this lady. She had your child. Value her for that. Your daughter will appreciate siblings. Plural. You will too.
Choose not to fight / argue. Not to be a wallflower - but don’t bite on any strife that arises. I’ll give you a verse to stand on: God is not the god of confusion, but of peace (order) - in James 3:16 states “ where envy and strife is there is confusion and every evil thing.” So you can put these together and realize that God is not in the strife - so it can be read as where envy and strife is there is the devil and every evil thing.
Take up the peace of God in your life and you’ll notice things you’ve been blind to. God is for you, your relationship, your daughter: not against. That alone should encourage you greatly. You would hear hardly any of this inside a church wall - but you got it on CP lol.
Take that advice, apply it, and you will see positive changes! Be encouraged.
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