[Johnny199r]

My mental health is lower than it's ever been, and I'm starting to be more pessimistic it will get better.

I'm 41. I got out of a 12 year relationship last year (no kids).

I thought I'd be able to meet someone new, but it's starting to seem unlikely at this point. I thought (foolishly) it would be easier.

I live in the home city of my ex (for the last 5 years). I was more introverted and just did my own thing with her.

Since the breakup, I've joined 2 co-ed soccer teams (I played for a couple of university teams many years ago and enjoy it) a monthly book club and have a couple of friends that I spend time with sometimes (ie going for a bike ride on the Weekends). My hobbies generally surround being active (going to the gym, biking, yoga etc) however I've had an injured back for 4 months, despite going to physio and any type of rehabilitation treatment you can think of which has been frustrating. But for the back injury , I would have joined a running club or two, because that's how everyone and their dog seems to meet their partner these days.

I go on bigger trips (Asia for 6 weeks this year, Africa next January etc), have a lot going for me (high income job, not Bad Pitt looking but not ugly, either, no vices etc) but my life is just boring and I don't know how to change it. Every day is just the same. I haven't had much success getting with online dating (not looking for 30 year olds, just ladies that I find attractive with qualities I like, to like me back or message me back).

I'm just not seeing this ever start to get better. When I was 25 or 30, there were always people you could kind of mingle with, even at work, to have a social circle and naturally meet others but that seems to be gone now.

I understand other people have much more real problems than this, ie - serious health issues, poverty issues, and I should be content, but the thought of waking up 6 months from now and being in the same cycle makes me want to scream. Can anyone relate to this?