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Originally Posted by BigThief
This is a life altering, nothing will ever be the same. no closure, no time.
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Like with all endings that we didn't plan for, we have to give ourselves our own closure to the best that we can make it.
It won't be given to us.
Luckily we're extraordinarily adaptive creatures and somehow... our brains can wrap themselves around most "new normals" even if they're ####ed and unfair from an outside perspective.
I hope they can find relative peace one day. Perhaps the grandchildren growing up can lessen the pain to bearable.. which is better than where it's at today.
The most important thing is moving past the illusions of self-blame ("if I said --- they'd be here"/"if I delayed them or told them not to go.."). That does take time and work. And usually professional help.