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Originally Posted by GGG
I think this thread is about sharing personal struggles and sharing personal tools that have worked. So when someone says that reframing the scope of the anxiety works for them I don’t think it’s productive to diminish that as a tool. It may not work for others, it might be just the comment that gives someone an aha moment. So I think approaching comments in a generous and positive manner as opposed to dismissive makes this thread better.
I completely agree with the content of your post here that some issues are very real and can’t be fixed through improved mental health techniques. Many issues can be improved with better framing.
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Fair enough, not helpful. I'll try to be better.
I see it as a bit more nuanced. Worrying is actually a way our mind motivates us to solve problems. You worry about how you will make a life for yourself, so you go to school or start a career. You worry about forgetting the milk, so you make a reminder note. These are helpful, and worth processing the worry. You solve it, and it's gone. A successful result.
Contrarily, don't worry that you spilled dinner on your new shirt. Things happen. In a year, that worry means nothing.
So "stop worrying" may actually do you a dis-service. Many of our mental pathways exist for good reasons, it's only when they exceed those bounds that it becomes a problem. "Stop worrying about the little things" may be more helpful. Analyzing the worry is a good way to really find out if you need to solve it or not. But it may be a real worry and ignoring it makes matters worse.