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Originally Posted by powderjunkie
I could rant endlessly on this, but a good chunk of these "bad behaved kids" simply have different neurochemistry, and it is LITERALLY IMPOSSIBLE for them to exist comfortably within our neurotypical societal expectations (many many many of which are ####ing stupid and none of us like, anyways). And it can be essentially impossible to teach/discipline/etc them in a way that makes any sense to our neurotypical brains. Science/medicine is barely beginning to understand this; diagnosis is difficult and subjective, and it isn't something that can be 'fixed' any more than the colour of one's skin or sexual orientation.
Peace and quiet is not an unreasonable expectation. Good chance those kiddos live in a state of constant dysregulation, despite their parent's best efforts (that may well have evaporated at some point out of lack of understanding and the futility of it all, because holy #### it can be incredibly ####ing hard). So as much as they may disrupt dozens of moments of your day, imagine what they might be feeling most of the time.
None of us can really imagine what it's like to live in a world that is constantly hostile to you (but doesn't seem to bother most others). 3 years ago I probably would have been a judgmental prick about loud kids and 'bad parents'. Not anymore.
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Dude. Exemption for neuro divergent kids for sure. Like, no doubt about it.
I'm talking about the kids you could say...
'
HEY. No screaming or you're coming inside. Other people are trying to have fun, too.'
...and they'll stop screaming.
Like if you're out with a few families and one family has two kids that are nonstop screaming and the dopey parents are just sitting there like bumps on a log instead of disciplining their kids, that's a parenting fail resulting in ####ty-ass kids driving everyone nuts.
Definitely not saying lock your autistic kid in the basement.