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Originally Posted by GreenLantern2814
2/10.
My son was stillborn in February. I haven’t been back to work. I smoke all the weed I can get my hands on, and it’s a good day when I don’t drink before 2 in the afternoon. I have no patience with anyone, and I rarely see friends. I have been going to therapy once a week since it happened.
We got a Great Pyrenees puppy shortly after - she watches our daughter like a sheep, it’s adorable. Those two get me through the day.
Recent Flames activity has also been a welcome distraction.
But yeah. I’m not great.
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You've got this!
We lost our daughter at 39 weeks & 6 days... a day before her due date. That will be 18 years ago this August and I can still feel it. But that's good because I want to feel it... not wallow in it for sure... but that hurt is a part of me.
We had an 18-month old son at the time and much like you, he was what really got us through it.
You are bent but not broken, damaged but not destroyed. And I know from experience that your life can be full again with joy and happiness... and hurt. And that is okay.
Now I am in a job where I work for the dead on behalf of the grieving every day. To each of you who are struggling... you are important and you will be missed. I've helped a lot of families work through the 'sudden loss' of a husband, father, son or brother... and none of them are better off for it. Be strong enough to soldier on... as long as you are here you can improve and make things better. Once you are gone it is only worse for them.