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Originally Posted by Jay Random
I know that there is a difference between face-to-face communication and written communication, and the shortcuts and elisions appropriate for one (where much of the meaning is conveyed non-verbally) are not appropriate for the other (where everything depends on the bare text). You clearly don't get that.
Now as to your point:
I have, in the strict sense, NO ‘sympathy’ for Oliver Kylington. Cheap talk on a message forum about a person you have never met, who doesn't know you from Adam, and whom you have no intention of helping in any way, doesn't count as sympathy to me. Accusing other people of lacking sympathy in such a context is just egotistical preening at best; bullying at worst. It amounts to saying, ‘You are a bad person because you do not repeat the magic words that I use to prove I am a good person.’ But it's all just words, with no possibility that it will ever issue in any kind of action. You don't prove that you are a good person by yapping on a message board about how much you care; though simple people may occasionally be fooled by it.
I'm guessing you are another of these people who have never heard the expression, ‘Actions speak louder than words.’ Talking about how much you feel for other people doesn't make you a good person. It can mean no more than that you are lying.
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I can see that the definition of a “social situation” is not the only thing you have a poor and unravelling grip on, to say it gently.
I don’t want to take anything away from the unhinged rant, but I genuinely find it funny that you aren’t the first person who thinks expressing sympathy or just being a normal person are some vain attempts at being seen as this good, amazing person. I promise, sympathy is a lot easier than you think. It’s just a feeling. I have feelings when I watch commercials sometimes. They aren’t really hard to come by and people who feel feelings aren’t some amazing saints.
Maybe your insecurities are right and you feel like people are trying to make you out like you’re a bad person because you are?
Nobody is forcing you to dismiss and de-value what someone else is going through, or accuse people who are just expressing their feelings as “liars” because you don’t feel the same. Nobody is forcing you point your finger around and call people bullies and talk about their ego because they pointed out something you already admitted was true and you’re just mad they said it, too.
You don’t prove you’re a good person through sharing your thoughts, but nobody is trying to. You can prove you’re kind of an ####### though, and it seems like you’re
really trying to lol.