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Originally Posted by Sliver
It's not about the label, it's about the social skills you're developing. A person that locks themselves in their bedroom and studies their brains out and misses parties, sleep overs, etc. is not developing a well rounded personality. There is more to being an effective performer in the world than good grades.
So don't get caught up on the term "cool" or being "cool in high school" as though "cool" is the end goal. Being cool, liked and fun to be around is a byproduct of getting out there and enjoying life and banking experiences. It's a skill that's developed that works to your benefit. You need those funny and fun stories of shenanigans to relate to the other people.
Like, it seems obvious if you don't hang out with other people while young, then it is difficult to hang out and relate to people as you age. How many people do you hear asking 'how do I make friends' and saying 'I don't talk to anybody from my school'? I always find those stories really sad and I feel for those people, but I think it's a very difficult thing to remedy. You can't teach those kinds of social skills IMO - they have to come organically in many ways from just being and learning from other people when you're young and the world is more forgiving because all your peers are figuring things out at the same time.
To jump into hanging out with people at 30 once you have your MBA after finishing the IB program in high school is virtually impossible.
But there's more than one way to skin a cat. If you think burying your nose in a book to get 96% for the same piece of paper I'll get with my 78% then go nuts. I'd venture to say I'll be the guy with the richer experience during my youth remembering all the parties, Bowness Park drinking nights, sneaking out of the house, etc. than the person whose life revolves around grades, but I could be wrong. I'm absolutely gambling my kids' future that I'm right, though.
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I totally want to have a beer with you, LOL
And I agree with you - my wife and I are perfect examples. I was the B+ student who did a social sciences degree, partied every weekend, went on trips, etc.
She worked her ass off and studied super hard to become an actuary. Early in our careers, she out-earned me.
Now? She is in similar jobs to what she was doing before, I have been promoted twice and out-earn her 4-7x depending on the year now. She mentions how she regrets not having more fun when younger, and says I was "lucky" that I took an easy degree and had all that fun and still ended up as successful as I am.
Not to take anything away from her - she did give me some kicks in the ass through the years that propelled me to where I am now as well.
