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Originally Posted by Sliver
Yeah, my daughter was losing sleep and stressing so much for the first half of high school about grades and ruining her future when she was just 16. That's when I clued in that there has to be a better way. We changed our whole approach and it relieved so much of her stress and anxiety. She went from thinking she'd be digging ditches as a career to being accepted to three universities.
Just get accepted into university and then make your way once you're there. It's all you need to do. The last thing you want to be as a teen is a study-a-holic missing out on all the fun just to get an arbitrary number that absolutely does.not.matter. Do well with your grades such that you get accepted into university, but don't push harder for that extra five or eight percent that takes way too much time and effort to achieve. Dedicate that time to relationships, friendships, relaxing, exercising and just generally being a well-rounded human that is enjoying their fleeting youth.
I went out for beers last night with two other people - both teachers. They couldn't agree more with what I'm saying and I'm heartened to hear your teacher wife feels the same way. My wife is in the corporate world and she helped inform my shift from "get good grades" to "get adequate grades in the easiest courses possible". Reason being is the 99% students absolutely top out in the workforce while people like my wife who are fun, personable and were cool as young people end up being the good leaders who other good leaders want to elevate and be with on trips, in meeting, etc. The studious types end up plateauing and continue to be worker bees while being surpassed by the normies.
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A lot of this is based in being in a high socioeconomic background with the right demographics and networks.
Being fun, cool and personable in a lower socioeconomic group or a person of color doesn't move you up the corporate ladder as consistently as it would for someone like your daughter.
Being studious and disciplined won't reach the same highs as the jocks of the schools, but it will have a much higher floor.