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Originally Posted by Lubicon
Every kid will be different.
In our case (my daughter) it was keeping her marks above the insanely high minimum average to get into the program she inadvertently was accepted into and then to stay in it the first two years again due to marks. Her marks were good, very good in fact. But there was zero room for error and it was stressful on her. Living at home so we saw everything she was going through and the stress transferred to everyone.
Once she was into 3rd year and actually taking courses she enjoyed it was a different story.
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Yeah, that would be tough.
We'll see what university holds for my kid.
The big thing I do that's maybe a bit unusual is encourage them to take the easiest stuff to get their piece of paper. Like, you want to take Physics 30 in grade 12?
Why? It'll be hard when fricken Phys Ed is weighted the same to get into university. Always take the easiest route to get to your end goal. If there's an easy math and a hard math that both count the same for university entrance, take the easy math, obviously. It's crazy how well this approach is working for us.
I understand that is different in university if you have a defined end goal, but still, we just worked my daughter's schedule to take the easiest possible courses at the best possible times, so strategy does enter into it even if you have ambitious goals.
My wife went to "rate my prof" and made sure we picked all the easiest markers. Each morning allows a sleep in (her classes will start at 10 at the earliest). I think you need to be really strategic and hard work is
not its own reward. Find a leisurely way to get that degree while the worker bees are working their sacks off.
I still think all those high-grade types are confounded at how people that are more fun to be around but cruised around with B- averages have surpassed them in the workforce. My gamble is my approach will put my kids further ahead in life than the people who are giving it 199%. I want them to do well in school, but even better in The Den 101ing. The successful people I see at 47 are the ones who know how to hang. Those who were all about the studying top out in their careers and cannot understand why.
Edit: OMG, I implied your kid was going to be unsuccessful for working hard and getting good grades haha. Sorry, dude. I know there are programs where that effort is required and there are so many successful people that need to work so hard to become the types that make the world a better place. The Sliver clan is much more mid than that, so we aim for mediocrity haha.