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Originally Posted by Russic
As somebody with slightly older kids (14/12), if I could give 10-years-ago me one bit of advice, it would probably be to realize that the feeling of running on empty–while uncomfortable–is precisely what it's supposed to feel like. Little kids are very difficult. Even if you're having a great time, they demand an inordinate amount of time, attention, and energy. On top of that you have to balance a marriage that has most certainly changed because nobody has kids without changing.
I'm watching a buddy of mine now try to spin up a business and have little kids at the same time and it makes me sad. He feels like a failure on all fronts when truthfully there's almost no reality where he can be a 100% father, business owner, husband, and take care of himself all at the same time.
It all comes in waves. Maybe this is your time to make money, or maybe this is your time to be a parent, but it's probably not your time to do both. It feels like it'll last forever because that's what our brains do when things are hard.
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Yeah. My kids are 8/10, and 6-8 years ago I was basically 100% on what I would call the "basics".
They're still work now (making them school lunches, buying them stuff, whatever) but a lot of the time I spend with them is really fun (playing catch, riding bikes, playing cards, reading, whatever) whereas changing diapers and cleaning up food you threw on the floor wasn't exactly life-giving, and since they couldn't do anything themselves took a lot more time.