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Originally Posted by GGG
It’s more exhausting to train children to do chores than to just do them yourself especially when less than 5. Also why does doing chores relieve women’s exhaustion rather than the families exhaustion. If kids doing chores relieves the women’s exhaustion the husband not doing chores is the more likely issue
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Agree but disagree. It's tiring teaching them at first, but then it is far less tiring once they get self sufficient and can do it themselves or help out in a satisfactory manner.
Chores before age 5 is more like play learning and understanding responsibility. Those chopped veggies are ugly AF vs what my wife and I can do. I have to do a few extra passes after they vacuum and they used to get in the way of me doing it faster. But it's less time and less tiring having them being the vacuum and picking up larger items that could clog the vacuum for me now. I can also hand them an item, give them instructions and they run it over (ie: garbage, recycling or Compost). Everyone starts somewhere and needs opportunities to get better. I don't want them to fear failure. I want them to be OK with it so it won't slow them down towards aiming for self improvement.
It's different for different families but for my kids, if I didn't start at age 2-3, I feel like they'd end up with a weird learned helplessness if I waited till age 5 to start. Coincidentally, last year, my 3 year old tantrumed in a way where she complains and tells me she is incapable of walking and starts flopping and rag dolling. I snuffed that #### out right away. I calmly tell her to stop flipping, speak without distortion from crying and screaming (because I can't understand) and taught her a different way to be upset that wouldn't physically hurt her like she was before.
Short term pain for longer term gain.
I can only answer for my household, but chores relieves my wife exhaustion more than me because a messy home tires her emotionally and mentally more than it does me. I'm an unrefined pig who worries not about the mess and also I'm way more efficient and effective at cleaning up the entire house overall an hour or two before guests arrive.