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Originally Posted by ResAlien
I’m far from religious but if you framed it that way you made your position very clear while pretending to remain neutral.
Personally I did something similar without the dismissive verbiage. Some people believe this, others don’t, you can decide which you’d like to pursue.
If she wanted to go to church with a friend I said ok go for it and we’d have a quick discussion about it when she got back. As she got older and more curious about my beliefs I’d share them but trying to remain truly neutral was my goal. It’s good for some people and bad for others, you gotta trust your children to make those decisions themselves you can’t do it for them.
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Good post. You're right. Except that I was not trying to be neutral. I am intentionally dismissive of religion. In this particular instance, I was also a bit annoyed because my niece had fed some nonsense about heaven to my 4 year old (typo in previous post. She's 5 now and was 4 at this time) that worried her. I'm super open with my daughter but I don't feign neutrality very often, so I gave her my conclusions. That's really the crux of the question here: is it better to Shepard kids toward your own beliefs or let them figure it out.
Personally, I think it's better to share beliefs and reasoning at the same time because it's more clear. Important caveat that it's okay to disagree, which my daughter exercises often. I also understand that some people prefer to let their kids figure out more on their own. I think kids figure it out on their own either way, as others have said, and sharing your own learning gives them a headstart.