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Originally Posted by bizaro86
That's not how people say it though.
I've definitely been asked if we were trying to have kids (we were married for quite awhile before we did have kids).
That's slowed down now (we have two kids in middle elementary) but even now once in awhile someone asks if we're going to have another kid. We're not.
I think it's super-rude. There are only two possibilities for why someone in a committed relationship doesn't have kids.
1) they don't want kids, either ever or not yet. That's a totally fine choice, but can still be awkward when the person asking assumes everyone should want kids.
2) they are trying to get pregnant but haven't been able to yet. This one can make that question very difficult, because you may reasonably not want to discuss your personal health issues casually, and fertility issues are often really emotional.
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It’s also almost always a stranger or loose acquaintance.