[kermitology]

Those of you who are dads and seem to just expect your partner to do most of the heavy lifting need to give your head a shake. It's not that challenging to be present with your kids, it's tiring, sure, but it's very doable.

That being said, I would wager that most of the women in most of our lives are dealing with some form of trauma as well, and keeping up the mask of not properly dealing with that is exhausting. Chronic dis-ease will lead to nervous system disregulation and that will lead to exhaustion and eventually illness. This is the story of my wife, she kept up this artificial drive to keep going, always scheduled us to the tits, and then she got covid and her body basically shut down.

She now has long covid manifesting as chronic fatigue syndrome, and has been forced to look inward through things like mindfulness, meditation, and somatic therapies. Heck, I've found the value in mindfulness and it's been life changing for me after almost 2 years of being sole care giver for two kids (11 and almost 9) and my wife.