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Originally Posted by Ashasx
Maybe if they were 13-14 year old kids, I could understand that position.
They weren't kids. They were 18-19 year old adults. I think we should hold them to a higher standard.
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I wish I could say that if put in the same situation at 18-19 years old that I would have been confident enough or strong enough mentally to have ran in and said stop it, or would have done something about it, but I can't say with certainty that I would have. Especially when it's a group of guys that were likely more acquaintances than good friends, and even more so if I was also intoxicated at all.
At that age I know there were circumstances where maybe a guy was being a little too handsy or forward with a girl at a bar or something and I have stepped in and said "Hey bud, she said no" but to walk into a room with at least 5 other guys, where the act is already happening...I honestly can't say I would have done any better than that guy at stopping it when I was 18 or 19 years old.
It's a mindset that I think we need to build as a society at all ages, and not just as 18-19 year old men. I think if faced with that situation now I'd be mature and confident enough to know what to do, but honestly think it's too easy to look back at it and say you would have stopped it if you were put in the same situation at that age with the benefit of hindsight. Really none of us know what we would have done in that scenario unless we've actually ever been in that scenario.