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Originally Posted by Scroopy Noopers
You know what grinds my gears, my parents won’t drive 2.5 hours to visit me and their only grandchild. Like, ever. And not only that, I get heaps of guilt for not visiting them. I’m constantly calling them, FaceTime’ing them, sending photos and videos, notes, invites, plans for fun things to do if they came to visits, all of it. Nothing. Absolutely nothing. And they complain to their friends that I don’t come to visit. It’s infinitely easier for them to travel than I with my kid who can’t sleep in a car, and our dog.
####s insane and has resulted in me not even understanding my own reality for the last 5 months. Thank god for my wife to help give me clarity so I’m not lost in my own head about it constantly. This is just a nonsense rant I had to type out.
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Remember that you can’t control their behaviour. You have to not care that they tell their friends how terrible their son is and you have to accept that they won’t be the grandparents you want them to be regardless of what you do. Once you do that you have the power and you can establish what you think is reasonable without guilt
The challange is not caring what they think because you have 30-40 years of that ingrained into you. Reddit has some interesting groups on entitled grandparents if you are looking for people to share your experiences with.