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Originally Posted by Maritime Q-Scout
I asked, I recieved, then I went to bed . . .
If Tom asks out Susan after being best friends, and Susan says no. The course of action Tom should make is stick around for a very short while and see if there is chance to try again, and if not find someone else to direct his affection towards. If she's playing hard to get, or now with the dynampics changed in the relationship trying a second (but not third) time I don't think is unreasonable.
If Susan says she needs time to think about it, then going and moving onto another girl seems unfair, to everyone involved. What if she says yes and you've moved on? But again the time frame should be short, and Susan has to be honest with Tom when she makes up her mind after thinking it over (don't just let it slide and pretend nothing happened, which from what I gather often becomes the case).
After moving on I don't think it's unreasonable to want to still have friendship with the girl, I mean you were good friends once for a reason. Is it wrong to want to continue the friendship only no a friendship level?
Also, if they say your partner is your best friend (at least of the opposite gender, all else being equal for the PC folks in the crowd) then why can't your best friend become your partner?
ALSO
what ever happened to the rule every girl has to get drunk and sleep with her best guy friend once. I mean . . . I've become a lot of girls best guy friend, and I'm waiting on the payout here!  |
Paragraph A: I've highlighted the important word here. What SHOULD happen never does. That's the problem.
Paragraph B: We've established that women are emotion based creature, not logical. If she's "thinking" about it, that's a bad sign. She is doing one of two things at that time:
a) figuring out how to let you down without losing her shoulder to cry on.
b) deciding whether or not you'll do till something better comes along.
This is never going to work. A woman has to, HAS TO be able to figure out the value of a man in her life without being directed - otherwise she's an idiot (Another undesirable trait in a mate)
Paragraph 3: It's not unreasonable as long as both parties see the relationship for what it is. People tend to have/get bruised feeling climbing in or out of any relationship - frienship of more. Sometimes those feeling do more damage than you know.
Paragraph 4: They can. We've already agreed here.
Paragraph 5: Fun! But the parties involved (specifically women) need to be comfortable in their own skin in the morning. By that I mean, they need to be confident enough to say, "That was fun! Let's do it again!" and open the door for the relationship or "That was fun! But we're only hurting ourselves if we have a repeat." telling you that the relationship door is firmly closed.
WARNING: Your performance the night before will have little bearing on the words she chooses.