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Originally Posted by FireFly
Well who are they asking out? If you're a male, and I'm using you as a shoulder to cry on, you'd better believe you're on my friend ladder, in which case, yeah, you're likely going to get rejected when you ask me out. Why are you allowing girls to cry on your shoulder if you aren't dating and you want to?
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Because we love and care about you?
Guys don't understand the ladder theory, as in life we're taught "if you want it . . . act like it" as in: if you want to be manager, act like a manager; if you want to be a goal scorer, act like a goal scorer.
So if we want to be your boyfriend, we'll act like your boyfriend, see if you want us around, if you like us, if we can be the guy you turn to.
Then we're told (through actions) we're the most important guy in your life . . . hell we could be told that verbally...... and you're dating someone else? WTF?
(again not you specifically, FireFly)
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Originally Posted by FireFly
That depends on what it is I'm talking about... if I want a 3 carat rock, and you can't afford it, yeah I'm gonna lie about it. Duh. I don't want you to feel bad that you can't afford what I really want. Besides, what I really want is YOU, and it doesn't really matter what the rock looks like. (Not you specifically Q, just generalizing here with an extreme example.)
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I can afford a 3 carat rock . . . ladies PM me
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Originally Posted by FireFly
Again, we do these things with the best intentions. (Mostly) It's not a game, we're trying to spare everyone involved undue stress or anger or whatever.
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This maybe the guy in me speaking but, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. I'd rather know what cards I'm playing with. I want to know all the variables and factors when making decisions that affect my life and the lives of people I car about, in particular the woman in my life. Ergo, I want the truth, even though it hurts, I want it. If there's a problem, or a situation . . . I can fix it (or atleast I think I can so let me try)