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Originally Posted by Bill Bumface
I would say the most important part of this, is for you to work through the above as quickly as possible.
Your happiness or self worth needs to get separated from the achievements of your children. Your son needs to know that your sad that he's sad, but otherwise couldn't give a rat's ass about what team he's on, what sports he quits or any of it. You'll be there to cheer him on, encourage him, and do your best to make sure he's having fun and enjoying his life regardless.
Be the rock that he knows won't be affected by any of the upsetting things that happen in his life. They're hard enough for him, he doesn't need to worry about them affecting others as well. They can always tell.
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Absolutely 100%. What little thought we had for ourselves (my wife and I), is immediately replaced with our son's well being. Frankly, neither of us care. But it's just a basic emotion and thought. We've found who really actually cares in the past couple days, as they found out and reached out. it's the silence of the others that we learn. It's funny, that even as adults, we aren't immune to such behaviours.
Regardless, our son's well being comes above all.
I guess an update, he woke up pretty sad, but he came home for lunch, i took him for a ice cream, and we talked. He's feeling much better and is trying to find a way to channel his emotion. We're going to write down a game plan on what HE wants, not what I want, and then build small goals to reach from there for him. He's a very analytical kid, and goal oriented, so we think this will resonate with him a lot.