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Originally Posted by Buff
We have struggled for over a year with the Home Care nurse. She didn't think my dad needed care because she said my mom can take care of him. She didn't seem to believe us or understand that my mom's anxiety was taking a major toll on her.
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That’s rough. We’ve had similar experiences with some of the staff at my dad’s nursing home saying he doesn’t need to be there. They don’t seem to understand that my mom not only has dementia as well, but suffers from severe anxiety. We’re hanging on by a thread just keeping her at home, living with my sister and special needs brother. Returning my dad - who ‘elopes’ from the care home regularly (and would do the same from home) - would only result in both of them winding up in a care home. So yeah, ‘why can’t you just take him home’ doesn’t exactly help matters - especially the gut-wrenching guilt.
You did the right thing by getting another assessment done. Waving that piece of paper around is what it takes sometimes to get a senior the care they need.