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Originally Posted by PepsiFree
It has nothing to do with centring the feelings of allies, it’s about realising that intentions matter and good intentions with imperfect delivery is something still worth appreciating.
Someone can absolutely still be an ally while being put off by certain criticisms. Members of the community get put off by certain criticisms. Not every criticism is valid.
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I also didn't say that it was completely worthless. I do hate the 'be careful what you say or you'll use allies' point. Because I think that does centre perspectives that shouldn't be centred in this conversation.
I also despite the idea that everyone takes a criticism personally, when a lot of times its about calling people in. Growing and learning together etc. All I'm saying is that if someone thinks they're being attacked and taking their ball adn go home because someone has a slightly different perspective they're not the ally they think they are.
We all live in the shades of grey, and I think we need to comfortable with that.
Edit: I'm just so tired.