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Originally Posted by FanIn80
It's been suggested by many people that I myself am located somewhere on the spectrum... and as someone who is often incapable of interpreting signals in time to stop talking or change my wording, I can assure you that constantly having people annoyed with me or going through life without anyone ever really taking me seriously or treating me with the same kind of respect I see them treat others with is most definitely a form of suffering.
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Can confirm from my own experience. I've improved with time. Nowadays, oddly enough, I have most of my trouble online in places like this, where many people have their antennae set to ‘social setting, just shooting the ####’, but mine default to ‘
verba volent, scripta manent, therefore every word must have been carefully thought out and needs to be taken seriously!’
As a child, I was often bullied at school, and hated the place. I was told I had to be there ‘to learn social skills’; but of course, the people who told me that could never tell me what social skills I was supposed to be learning, or how kids who didn't have them were supposed to teach them to other kids. I eventually came to the conclusion that most social skills are based on two recognitions:
1. Other people are real people, just as you are a person.
2. Other people are not the same person as you. In fact, they may be incredibly different in a lot of ways without breaking rule 1.
People with marked autism can have a lot of trouble applying recognition #1, but once they get it, #2 is obvious. Neurotypicals, and especially those who spend their formative years in an environment where they don't stand out in any particular way, get #1 instinctively but often hang up on #2.
Now, I'm just spitballing here, but topfiverecords said this:
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I suggest everyone go check out the leaked footage on Twitter. Appears to me that Babcock was the one who was most uncomfortable. Not sure who the player in the video is but he has some funny pics.
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If this interpretation is valid, then it sounds to me kind of like Babcock had a failure in mode #2. Like, ‘Hey, I'll show you the pictures on my phone, which are all innocent family stuff, and you show me yours… WHOA! I was not expecting THAT!’ Sorry, Mike, not everyone is a 60-year-old with a wife and kids to keep him in line. Please review recognition #2 and adjust accordingly.