When my son was first born, my wife started mommy and me classes. This was in late 2019, just prior to COVID times. She makes friends easily but is generally more reserved, so I was surprised that after the first class she had already set up a play date with another mom! I congratulated her and didn't think too hard about it (we were first time parents after all, and between work and new baby I am not ashamed to say that I was not very attentive to my wife's feelings).
Day of the play date, only two days later, and my wife is a bit stressed. Originally they had spoken about a playdate at a local toddler cafe, but the other mom had suddenly insisted on playdate at our house. I ask her about it more, and come to find it was other mom that approached her and insisted on a near term playdate, after the introductions during which my wife divulged that she was a social worker. I started to notice the red flags and suggested that she cancel the play date and ask to reschedule. But my wife didn't want to turn down what could be her first new mom friend! So I relented and left for work.
4 hours later I get a call. The lady had brought her newborn daughter to our house and within 15 minutes made an excuse and straight up left. My poor, new mom wife with a 2 month old was now also babysitting someone's 3 month old. Someone she had only met once and barely knew.
Needless to say my wife became an intense scrutineer when it came to mom friends from that point on. COVID also stopped that. Damn lady had the nerve to request a play date 2 days later. My wife blocked her phone number. I sympathize as I understand that her husband had been out of town a lot, but that type of behavior is off the wall crazy. She's really, really fortunate my wife did not get her work colleagues involved.
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