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Originally Posted by CroFlames
Bump.
My wife is getting baby fever. We have three already and I feel that’s plenty. I am super happy with my life the way it is. I’m not motivated anymore to be getting up all night tending to a needy noise machine.
Anyone gone thru this before? I worry that if I put my foot down and say no, she’ll regret it forever. If I say ok let’s do it, I’ll regret it forever.
(She agreed 4 is the absolute max)
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We managed to raise three kids, and it looked at one time we may be having a fourth, but it wasn't meant to be. Had we had the fourth, it wouldn't have been the end of the world. However, that was in the days where having children was mostly unplanned.
As raising children is a huge responsibility and a lot of work, having another child should not be taken lightly. I tend to agree that you should get to a point where you are both in agreement, should you decide to have another one. Maybe getting professional help may avoid future issues.
I am no expert, but if it was me, I would probably try and assess the pros and cons, like what would the impact be on your finances and overall life plans?. Does it interfere with things like buying a house, summer home? Are there any health risks e.g. depression, genetic problems? How would the effect be on your other kids? How does it affect your plans for retirement?
I seem to recall it was Sir Winston Churchill who said, "Every couple should have at least three children, one for yourself, one for your wife, and one for your country".