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WinnipegFan · 08-12-2023, 10:51 PM

Hey OP,

I have worked as a counsellor for a significant chunk of my career, and I have been to see one many times. Not embarrassed about it at all. I also don't go around talking about it but I am not ashamed to have sought out help. However, I cannot say that the help was really all that useful. To be honest I am lucky in my situation that I have two things:

1. My wife, she is a rock and man she has been through the #### with me, but we are on the other side and stronger for it.

2. Friends that I can openly talk to about real life issues. Not those ones that like the happy you, I mean the real friends that will get into the muck with you and sit there.

Now, as for getting help I have found refuge in understanding myself better and in meditation. There is a great recorded series I have and am happy to share that guides you through the early stages of meditation.

As for professional help explore the options out there, no one is a perfect fit for everyone but there will be someone that works. Don't hesitate to pull away if it isn't working or helping and seek someone new.

You also aren't looking for a cure here, there isn't one. However, there are steps you can take to improve yourself, and some medications that can be immediate aids but limited in their ability to overall improve things.

Don't turn that frown upside down, embrace it and figure out its source. It is also ok to be sad. We have a false belief that we need to be happy which seems to be captured in your statement to your wife. However, we truly can't even understand the concept of happiness without understanding sadness. Also, if you are on social media, get the #### off it. It is a huge source of sadness as it displays an artificial idea of happiness.

Feel free to PM me anytime, I am always happy to listen as well if you need to start somewhere and just talk to someone. I am in a weird timezone for Calgary but I will always make it work for someone who needs to talk.

Also keep these #s closely, just in case during your journey you ever get overwhelmed:

403-266-HELP (4357) https://www.distresscentre.com
311 - no joke you can call this and they will connect you to help

All the best my friend, it is not a journey towards happiness, it is journey through a #### tonne of emotions and embrace the happiness along the way.

08-12-2023, 10:51 PM	#20
WinnipegFan Scoring Winger Join Date: Nov 2010 Exp:	Hey OP, I have worked as a counsellor for a significant chunk of my career, and I have been to see one many times. Not embarrassed about it at all. I also don't go around talking about it but I am not ashamed to have sought out help. However, I cannot say that the help was really all that useful. To be honest I am lucky in my situation that I have two things: 1. My wife, she is a rock and man she has been through the #### with me, but we are on the other side and stronger for it. 2. Friends that I can openly talk to about real life issues. Not those ones that like the happy you, I mean the real friends that will get into the muck with you and sit there. Now, as for getting help I have found refuge in understanding myself better and in meditation. There is a great recorded series I have and am happy to share that guides you through the early stages of meditation. As for professional help explore the options out there, no one is a perfect fit for everyone but there will be someone that works. Don't hesitate to pull away if it isn't working or helping and seek someone new. You also aren't looking for a cure here, there isn't one. However, there are steps you can take to improve yourself, and some medications that can be immediate aids but limited in their ability to overall improve things. Don't turn that frown upside down, embrace it and figure out its source. It is also ok to be sad. We have a false belief that we need to be happy which seems to be captured in your statement to your wife. However, we truly can't even understand the concept of happiness without understanding sadness. Also, if you are on social media, get the #### off it. It is a huge source of sadness as it displays an artificial idea of happiness. Feel free to PM me anytime, I am always happy to listen as well if you need to start somewhere and just talk to someone. I am in a weird timezone for Calgary but I will always make it work for someone who needs to talk. Also keep these #s closely, just in case during your journey you ever get overwhelmed: 403-266-HELP (4357) https://www.distresscentre.com 311 - no joke you can call this and they will connect you to help All the best my friend, it is not a journey towards happiness, it is journey through a #### tonne of emotions and embrace the happiness along the way.