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Russic · 07-12-2023, 11:53 AM

Lots of great stuff in this thread already, but I'll add what's been working for me:

Waking Up app (from Sam Harris): the guided meditations are great for me, but some find he talks way too much, so mileage varies (there's a trial). What I love about the app is in the theory section, where it dives deep into the why and how of meditation more than other apps I've used.

Learning to say no to things you want to do: Saying no to garbage tasks is an obvious one, but leaning into mono-tasking by turning down things I actually want to do has been very helpful. I found it was very easy to be doing 4 things all at once, making zero progress at any of it because I could never get momentum.

Leaning into discomfort: Not seeking it out like a masochist, but doing what I can to give up the resistance to life's inevitable pains has been highly transformative for me. Incredibly hard to do, but if you start small and work up (with mild boredom, for example), you can start to adjust your relationship to all forms of pain.

Compassion (self and otherwise): Depends how you view yourself, but this one has been big for me also. Metta meditations have been amazing for this, and it helped me through the Trump/covid years.

The gist is to spend some time viewing that all people (yourself very much included) have been given a toolbox to get through life and we're all just doing our best. Some of us got kick-ass toolboxes, some of us got monstrously terrible ones. We didn't choose our toolboxes, and we're all doing the best we can with what we've got.

Time travel cosplay: This was a tip from a podcast I listened to... if you find yourself annoyed with life for whatever reason, take a moment and cosplay yourself as an 80 year old given the opportunity to travel to this moment only. Maybe your kids are healthy, spouse is alive, body doesn't ache... whatever it is. You might find it puts things in perspective and allows for some gratitude.

Psychedelic Recommendation: "How to Change Your Mind" by Michael Pollan is an outstanding read. I have friends who've read it multiple times.

07-12-2023, 11:53 AM	#30
Russic Dances with Wolves Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Section 304 Exp:	Lots of great stuff in this thread already, but I'll add what's been working for me: Waking Up app (from Sam Harris): the guided meditations are great for me, but some find he talks way too much, so mileage varies (there's a trial). What I love about the app is in the theory section, where it dives deep into the why and how of meditation more than other apps I've used. Learning to say no to things you want to do: Saying no to garbage tasks is an obvious one, but leaning into mono-tasking by turning down things I actually want to do has been very helpful. I found it was very easy to be doing 4 things all at once, making zero progress at any of it because I could never get momentum. Leaning into discomfort: Not seeking it out like a masochist, but doing what I can to give up the resistance to life's inevitable pains has been highly transformative for me. Incredibly hard to do, but if you start small and work up (with mild boredom, for example), you can start to adjust your relationship to all forms of pain. Compassion (self and otherwise): Depends how you view yourself, but this one has been big for me also. Metta meditations have been amazing for this, and it helped me through the Trump/covid years. The gist is to spend some time viewing that all people (yourself very much included) have been given a toolbox to get through life and we're all just doing our best. Some of us got kick-ass toolboxes, some of us got monstrously terrible ones. We didn't choose our toolboxes, and we're all doing the best we can with what we've got. Time travel cosplay: This was a tip from a podcast I listened to... if you find yourself annoyed with life for whatever reason, take a moment and cosplay yourself as an 80 year old given the opportunity to travel to this moment only. Maybe your kids are healthy, spouse is alive, body doesn't ache... whatever it is. You might find it puts things in perspective and allows for some gratitude. Psychedelic Recommendation: "How to Change Your Mind" by Michael Pollan is an outstanding read. I have friends who've read it multiple times. Last edited by Russic; 07-12-2023 at 11:58 AM.