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Originally Posted by GreenLantern2814
If you don’t have kids, no, you will never understand the love a parent feels for their child. You can still love just fine, but it is different, I promise you.
The psychopaths I’m referring to are people that have kids and love other things more than them. Or don’t love them at all.
That’s ####ed.
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The hilarious thing is that there are parents that love the #### out of their kids out there and yet because no one ever gave them any real, honest parenting 101, the way they went about parenting ends up traumatizing their kids deeply.
And many parents take offence at even the hint of a suggestion that they didn't perform brilliantly at the role (see: every teacher in the school system ever).
No, parenting doesn't put you on another level of enlightenment from an average, non-parent human. It just opened up a new can of problems somewhat unique to those who've decided to parent or happened upon it by ineffective birth control or drunken negligence. And sure, you learned the value of loving something more than life itself, and that's cool. But in many, many cases it was in fact toxic love with excessively controlling behaviour (or unconscious emotion negligence due to replication of faulty parenting styles from the parents' parents) that passed on generational traumas and toxic behaviors to child/children.
Outside of the exceptional case of a happy accident where a new pair of new parent were raised brilliantly by secure and non-toxic, loving individuals and replicated that effectively in their offspring, chances are the parenthood was very messy and something that was merely endured while essentially shooting in dark on many things, even with the best of intentions.
To tout oneself as a tier above people who opted for non parenting paths because one grinded out a C-grade 18-25 year kid project where they've likely imprinted a number of damaging deep seeded traumas in their offspring and left them to work them our on their own is hardly something to brag about.
Heck of an experience though, I'm sure.
If you're that one epic parent who did it right though, yes, that person deserves boat loads of praise and respect.