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Originally Posted by GordonBlue
I think for us it's circumstances, and the shared past isn't enough.
He's gone a little towards being a UCP style of belief system. and I've actually gone more to the left as I've gotten older. So there is a disconnect in how we view things. limits discussion on a lot of topics.
But the biggest part is my personal fortunes have changed over the last few years, and with the cost of living, it's a now a bit grim for my family.
When people have a friend who can never afford to do anything, they quit getting asked out. I used to hang out at his house sometimes but it began to get a bit uncomfortable as I could seldom bring anything, and his wife isn't the most welcoming. (especially to someone she views as a mooch)
I think people generally like to spend time with others on their level, or social strata.
He's ghosting me, and I my mental health isn't in a place when I have the capacity to fight it.
sucks through, no matter the reason.
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Like many others... I hear ya. Thanks for sharing.
Sadly some people drift away over time, others it's more of a harsher stop, or sabbatical perhaps. Think of it this way... some people enter our lives for a few seconds, sometimes weeks, months, or even years. We each give and take until some purpose is served.
Sadly I have a friend who is going through some tough times and it's been that way for over a year... I simply ran out of energy chasing them and trying to lift them and be supportive. Maybe they felt the same way at times as I've also had some tough seasons the last few years. No ill-will harbored at all, am looking at it as more of a break and when we do (rarely) get together or chat it's still good. So in your case it may for a short while... or a long while... but use this time to help yourself and the result may be you can be there for your old buddy in the future.