[SutterBrother]

My brother is dating/living with a woman who very clearly has an eating disorder and may be an alcoholic. He seems totally blind to it, and I think his main attaction is to EDIT - being a Dad for her young children.

He and I never got along growing up (like NEVER), so as an adult I made a concious choice to make more of an effort to do so as a gift to my parents. Basically I ignored all the #### that bothered me about him, and tried to be less of a confrontational a-hole. Just let everything slide and pretend he was more of a casual aquaintence.

It actually worked pretty well, and was maybe the best thing I ever did for my folks.

During the pandemic he and his wife of 20 years divorced. It was sad, but they had grown in different directions.

A few months later, he paired up with one of his employees - she was the skinniest woman I'd ever seen. He's a pilot, so jets around a lot, and she was his office manager. She had 2 girls under age 5 from a previous marriage, and didn't have custody so only saw them on weekends.

The two of them would jet around the world together and send photos from Europe, Carribean etc. Eventually flew her out to my area so we could meet her. She was nice enough, but seeing in person - yeah. All doubts removed.

We went out for breakfast. She had a margarita at 8am and no food. At dinner, she disappeared for 90 min to the bathroom. :-(

I didn't say anything. They moved in together. He loves (always loved) spending time with kids, but his ex wife didn't want any. Now he has a couple "weekend" tots to hang out with and clearly loves it.

Took her to see my parents. Parents say she's a "floozy" and clearly has "anorexia".

Don't really know what to do... other than maybe "this is none of my business".