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Originally Posted by OutOfTheCube
I dunno man, it's probably not a good sign that this has happened enough times that you've come up with a whole strategy to deal with it...
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It's not
that frequent. I've just lived enough years lol.
Also I have a resting bitch face, I so I understand where I am potentially misinterpreted as a crumpy gunt.
Also I'm a child of a pretty traumatic environment, so I've been trained to have my defenses up when first meeting people. So if they're looking for a scapegoat among a group of people, I'm naturally an easy target. When i realize that's what is happening I reflect on what part i played in it and then work to build a better working relationship with said individual, which often blossoms into friendship as a result.
I'd say it's more a sign of maturity to not take those things personally, and see it as a chance to work on interpersonal skills. It's better than people who react and fire back at people and hold long standing grudges (which benefits no one and just results in more internal stress on the person holding those feelings than the person they're quietly berating).
It's about implementing a philosophy that offers the potential for future returns more than anything.