If you think of quitting something you enjoy as final, forever, whatever... then you're liable to dwell on it as a loss. As in, I can't imagine living the rest of my life without beer, so I won't even try! And when you say "I've quit drinking," that becomes part of your identity that's easy to shatter if you ever do have a drink.
But if you look at it as a choice--one you make every new day--you empower yourself to make a positive choice every day for as long as you want. And you're less likely to feel like a single binge is a failure to follow through on your intentions. You just pick up and make a different choice the next day.
That's my psychology, not necessarily yours. And easier said than done, I know. Personally, I try every day to make good choices and sometimes fail. But try again the next day. And if I feel like going on a year-long bender when I'm 90, that option remains open to me.
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