Well this talk of costs scared the hell out of me.
My dad needs to get care. My mom just can't deal with him anymore. He really isn't that bad off but my mom has bad anxiety and can't cope with my dad not being the same. It has been a terrible stress on me. The doctor said that my dad has no capacity to care for himself but the health care nurse assessed him and said he doesn't qualify for any supportive living. We can put him in a senior's lodge but we have to pay out of pocket and there is no support for the costs.
Was with my mom for a doctors appointment to deal with all her health problems, which are all direct result of her anxiety. He casually brought up that she can move to the same lodge and not have the stress of cleaning or cooking all meals, can be in the same place and visit every day without having to travel across town or worry about weather, etc. etc. She was all for that.... so now we have to find out where they can go, how much they can afford, and what the options are. I'm in a terribly busy time at work and can't stop and spend 30 minutes to call a place or two and the admin for all the seniors lodges seem to arrive at work later and leave work before I do so I just don't have time to get the ball rolling. My mom thinks it is all up to me and won't call herself.
At least she has gone from calling me 10-12 times per day to only once per day after that last doctors appointment. I have some breathing room now.
|