[TrentCrimmIndependent]

Originally Posted by edslunch

Musicians ghosting me when I'm trying to hire someone for a gig or a recording. I'm trying to find a cellist for a private gig and apparently they are in short supply. I met one this summer and we've discussed this gig off and on for months and she's in, but as we get closer it's been complete radio silence, like for the last month.

With three weeks left I've started reaching out to others and it's like, yeah totally interested let me check my calendar, then crickets.

Or yeah, totally interested and available, what's your budget? I throw out a range but am clear that I don't know the going rate, what's your normal rate? Crickets.

If you don't want to to do it, just be professional and say so. If you're too busy to respond properly, just say so.

I've had the same trying to find singers for a recording. What are you paying...crickets. I took a friend into the studio to do some recording with the stated purpose of trying some things and getting feedback from her. Did the mixes, sent for feedback, multiple follow-ups to her....crickets. Finally heard back, too busy to listen properly right now. OK, I know she's legitimately busy, but maybe could have said so sometime in the month that I was asking.

I've always found musicians to be a special breed, but is this just the way people (don't) communicate these days?

tough string of experiences but I'm sure not every single musician on earth is this way . also there's a phenomenon with people where we have a proven tendency to assume that when somebody does something displeasing from our vantage point that it's an internal reason while we tend to discount the strong possibility of external reasons that could be playing into it on their end . musicians aren't a breed with a shared personality disorder lol . it's probably a busy life thing, or a priority thing .. probably the same reasons for why people on kijiji and Facebook marketplace up and disappear in the middle of negotiating a sale . if they have options available to them sometimes you get dropped or put on the back burner