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Originally Posted by PepsiFree
From life. Doesn’t matter. It’s not HC’s job to stop the kids from learning that these things are okay before they HC is involved, it’s their job not to make it seem okay while HC is involved.
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I am not defending HC. But if you feel that someone "watching" these kids will stop what is happening at this level it is too late. As someone else mentioned the NDA and payouts were recommended by someone who is trying to save face and is wrong. What I am saying is the youth coaches and parents have to enforce the "no ###### bag" attitude as soon as they see it popping up.
I will give you one example from my history. A very close friend of my son (20 years ago) was the nicest kid on the planet, very friendly and would do anything for anyone. His dream was always to play Major Midget hockey and he finally realized his dream. Within 3 months of achieving this he totally changed and became an entitled ass who thought he could do or say anything. One day he made an offhand comment to my daughter (who he had known for 10 years) and her friends, acting cool in front of his new friends, but his problem was I was within hearing distance. I walked over, grabbed him and took him directly to his parents and made him tell them what he had said. His dad was old school like me and he had one choice, change back to the kid he was before or his hockey was done.
I saw the same thing in my sons basketball teams etc., and his sister sat him down and read him the riot act and I told him that if he ever acted in that manner or allowed his friends to then he was done playing also.
The thing is most parents are living their fantasy of playing thru the kids so don't put a stop to that ####. The parents of my sons hockey friend and myself weren't interested in living thru them, they didn't understand hockey as immigrant parents and I had no dream of basketball other than to support the kids. A little supervision by the family and some strength from the elite teams would put an end to this long before it becomes a problem. The first team meeting should be about one thing, respect other people and NEVER let something like this happen in our team environment.